Surrogacy vs Adoption: Which is a Better Fit for Your Family?

Understanding the pros and cons of surrogacy vs adoption is key to finding the right path for you. There are many ways to create a family and both are amazing options! My husband and I looked into adoption before exploring the surrogacy and egg donor route. We met with two agencies and even though we now have two daughters via surrogacy, we haven’t completely ruled out adopting in the future.

There are many pros and a few cons to adoption and surrogacy.

Pros of Surrogacy

• Genetic connection to your children (with gestational surrogacy)
• More control over the prenatal environment
• Legal certainty when done properly
• Tailored journey with a dedicated agency like Hatch

Cons of Surrogacy

• Higher upfront cost
• Complex legal requirements (surrogate laws vary by state)
• May require multiple IVF cycles

Pros of Adoption

• Often more affordable
• Gives a loving home to a child in need
• No need for IVF or embryo creation

Cons of Adoption

• Longer, unpredictable wait times
• Potential for birth parent to change their mind
• Less control over prenatal care
• More complex emotional dynamics

Cost of Surrogacy vs Adoption

One of the most common questions is: Which is more expensive - surrogacy or adoption?

In most cases, surrogacy is significantly more costly, with expenses ranging from $120,000 to over $200,000. This includes IVF, surrogate compensation, legal fees and agency costs. Meanwhile, domestic infant adoption typically costs $20,000 to $50,000, but expenses can vary based on whether it’s a private or agency adoption and state to state.

To explore a detailed breakdown, check out our surrogate and egg donor costs.

Legal Differences: Surrogacy vs Adoption

Surrogacy

• Most states support gestational surrogacy, where intended the parent/s are granted parental rights from birth and are on the birth certificate.
• Legal processes should always include pre-birth orders and contracts with the surrogate.
• In rare cases, surrogacy may be restricted—check state-by-state laws.

Adoption

• Parental rights are only transferred after legal finalization. This can vary state to state.
• Birth parents may revoke consent depending on the laws and timing.
• International adoption adds additional legal layers.

Emotional and Ethical Considerations

Both surrogacy and adoption come with complex emotional landscapes. Ethical questions often arise around compensation, parental rights and the well-being of the child and surrogate / birth parents.

Surrogacy often appeals to parents who want a biological connection and greater transparency during the pregnancy. But it’s essential to work with reputable agencies to ensure ethical treatment of all parties.

Adoption can be deeply fulfilling and transformative, but may involve navigating loss, trauma and complex family dynamics—especially in open adoptions.

Regional Factors and Accessibility

Where you live may determine how accessible each option is. For example:

• Surrogacy is more regulated and accepted in states like California. Hatch is based in California and can guide you through the most favorable legal environments. Hatch has surrogates in almost 40 states.
• Adoption laws vary by state and country. International adoptions can bring additional wait times, costs and legal steps.

Parent Testimonials: Real Stories of Surrogacy Success

“After years of trying to adopt and facing heartbreak, we turned to surrogacy. Hatch made everything manageable, and now we have our miracle baby.” — Lindsay & Mark, Hatch Parents

“The connection we formed with our surrogate was incredible. It felt like we were building our family together.” — Jonathan & Eric, same-sex parents through LGBTQ+ surrogacy

Common Questions About Surrogacy vs Adoption

What happens if a surrogate or birth mother changes her mind?

Surrogates enter into binding legal contracts. In adoption, birth mothers may have a legal window to change their decision post-birth, depending on state law.

Are employer benefits available?

Some companies offer parental leave and reimbursement for both processes. Learn more about parental leave for surrogacy.

Can disabled or single individuals become parents through surrogacy or adoption?

Yes, both paths are possible. Learn how disabled couples can become parents.

Final Thoughts: Which is Right for You?

Choosing between adoption vs surrogacy is personal. For some, adoption is a calling. For others, surrogacy offers the chance to start a family with more predictability and biological connection.

At Hatch, we support you wherever your path leads. Our team of surrogacy and fertility experts will walk with you every step of the way. If you’re considering surrogacy, get started with our Intended Parent Application.

Ready to start your journey?

Explore becoming a surrogate or learn why so many intended parents choose Hatch as their trusted guide.