For Intended Parents navigating their surrogacy journey, understanding how to support and care for your surrogate is essential—not only legally and financially, but emotionally and personally. Well-curated surrogate care package and gifts help to affirm how much you value your Surrogate, celebrate her efforts, and strengthen your relationship.
That’s where thoughtful care packages and personal touches come in. They’re more than just gifts. They’re your way of saying, “We appreciate you. We’re with you.”
Let’s face it—pregnancy is hard. Surrogacy is a physically and emotionally demanding process. While compensation addresses the medical and legal parts, a surrogate care package offers emotional warmth and personal connection. It helps a surrogate feel seen, appreciated, and cared for—beyond the contract and obligations.
It’s a reminder that she’s not doing this alone, and it’s symbolic of the love and care that awaits the child she is bringing earthside for you.
“I didn’t expect anything, but when they sent me nausea remedies like smoothies, candy to suck on, and a fuzzy blanket, it made me feel so appreciated and seen.”
— Karlie, 3x surrogate
“I felt thought of. Like they really listened when we talked. If I was craving bagels—the next day, bagels arrived, overnighted from their favorite bagel place. They even let me help pick out the wallpaper and curtains for their daughter’s nursery.”
— Miranda, 3x surrogate
The best gifts for surrogates are ones that show you’re paying attention to their needs and emotions—especially during different stages of pregnancy. Here’s a quick guide:
These gifts aren't just items—they’re small, heartfelt ways of saying, “You matter.”
Gifts are a beautiful gesture, but real support goes deeper. Think about how she’s feeling. Is she supported? Does she have access to all the resources she might need?
You can learn more about emotional wellness and full support options in our frequently asked questions for surrogates.
A strong surrogacy relationship is built on trust, mutual respect, and open communication. Here are a few ways to build and maintain that bond:
Talk about communication preferences, who’ll attend appointments, and what kind of updates are comfortable to share. For more guidance, check out our surrogate guidelines and requirements.
A weekly check-in text like “Thinking of you—how are you feeling this week?” can mean more than you think.
Share sonograms, baby name ideas, or a sneak peek of the nursery. Being part of these moments helps her feel connected to the life she’s helping bring into the world.
Discuss how often you’ll communicate, who will be involved in decisions and appointments, and what kind of involvement she wants after birth. Be open, honest, and make sure expectations align.
Surrogates often benefit from therapy, peer support, or agency counseling. Emotional ups and downs are normal in postpartum recovery—what matters most is that she knows you’re there for her.
Be emotionally available. Listen. Appreciate her openly and often. Gifts are nice, but consistent kindness, respect, and emotional presence leave a lasting impact.
It builds trust, reduces stress, and reinforces that this is a shared journey. Honest conversations can turn a transactional experience into a lifelong bond.
Being a surrogate is a deeply selfless, life-changing act. And while no amount of compensation or gifts can match what she’s giving, a thoughtful surrogate care package and gifts—combined with consistent emotional support—go a long way.
At the end of the day, surrogacy is more than a legal agreement: it’s a human experience. One that deserves care, kindness, and acknowledgment every step of the way.
To learn more about how you can support your surrogate beyond the basics, visit our frequently asked questions or intended parent resource guide.