Surrogate Care Package and Gifts: How to Support your Surrogate with Meaningful Gestures

For Intended Parents navigating their surrogacy journey, understanding how to support and care for your surrogate is essential—not only legally and financially, but emotionally and personally. Well-curated surrogate care package and gifts  help to affirm how much you value your Surrogate, celebrate her efforts, and strengthen your relationship.

That’s where thoughtful care packages and personal touches come in. They’re more than just gifts. They’re your way of saying, “We appreciate you. We’re with you.”

Why Care Packages Matter in Surrogacy

Let’s face it—pregnancy is hard. Surrogacy is a physically and emotionally demanding process. While compensation addresses the medical and legal parts, a surrogate care package offers emotional warmth and personal connection. It helps a surrogate feel seen, appreciated, and cared for—beyond the contract and obligations.

It’s a reminder that she’s not doing this alone, and it’s symbolic of the love and care that awaits the child she is bringing earthside for you.

What Surrogates Say Really Matters

“I didn’t expect anything, but when they sent me nausea remedies like smoothies, candy to suck on, and a fuzzy blanket, it made me feel so appreciated and seen.”
— Karlie, 3x surrogate

“I felt thought of. Like they really listened when we talked. If I was craving bagels—the next day, bagels arrived, overnighted from their favorite bagel place. They even let me help pick out the wallpaper and curtains for their daughter’s nursery.”
— Miranda, 3x surrogate

Thoughtful Gift Ideas for Each Stage

The best gifts for surrogates are ones that show you’re paying attention to their needs and emotions—especially during different stages of pregnancy. Here’s a quick guide:

First Trimester: Nurturing Through the Nausea

• Belly butter and gentle, pregnancy-safe skincare
• Ginger chews or nausea wristbands
• A cute, insulated water bottle to help her stay hydrated
• A doordash gift card so she can feed herself and her family without having to deal with the scents from cooking in her own kitchen.

Second Trimester: Comfort Is Everything

• Soft maternity loungewear or a lightweight robe (bonus if it's surrogacy-themed!)
• Fuzzy throw blanket for relaxing
• A supportive pregnancy pillow for better sleep

Third Trimester: Help Her Rest and Recharge

• Soothing foot soak or a portable foot massager
• A gift card for a massage/spa day
• Gift card for Amazon where she can get odds and ends she may enjoy to stay comfortable or prepare for the birth ahead
• Compression socks and a gentle belly support band

Postpartum: Honor Her Sacrifice and Strength

• A keepsake necklace (baby’s birthstone or initials)
• A spa-themed surrogate care package with face masks, candles, jade rollers or other products that are restorative and safe for postpartum use
• A bottle of wine or the sushi she has not been able to enjoy for 9 months
• A personal thank-you letter or photo book from the journey you shared
• A small family vacation/staycation to recoup and celebrate

These gifts aren't just items—they’re small, heartfelt ways of saying, “You matter.”

Going Beyond Gifts: Emotional and Practical Support

Gifts are a beautiful gesture, but real support goes deeper. Think about how she’s feeling. Is she supported? Does she have access to all the resources she might need?

• Offer to cover counseling sessions, both during and after the pregnancy- your contract will include a certain amount for sessions.
• Ask if she wants a Birth or Postpartum Doula- someone to prepare her for birth and postpartum recovery and be an emotional support.
• Ask about what she needs—whether it’s nutrition support, extra rest, or help managing appointments.
• Keep checking in, especially after the birth. Tell her how you’re doing too—surrogates often care deeply about how you’re adjusting as new parents and love hearing how your baby is doing.

You can learn more about emotional wellness and full support options in our frequently asked questions for surrogates.

Building a Real Connection with Your Surrogate

A strong surrogacy relationship is built on trust, mutual respect, and open communication. Here are a few ways to build and maintain that bond:

1. Set boundaries early—and respect them.

Talk about communication preferences, who’ll attend appointments, and what kind of updates are comfortable to share. For more guidance, check out our surrogate guidelines and requirements.

2. Stay in touch consistently.

A weekly check-in text like “Thinking of you—how are you feeling this week?” can mean more than you think.

3. Make her feel included.

Share sonograms, baby name ideas, or a sneak peek of the nursery. Being part of these moments helps her feel connected to the life she’s helping bring into the world.

Common Questions from Intended Parents

What kind of boundaries should we set?

Discuss how often you’ll communicate, who will be involved in decisions and appointments, and what kind of involvement she wants after birth. Be open, honest, and make sure expectations align.

What if she’s struggling emotionally?

Surrogates often benefit from therapy, peer support, or agency counseling. Emotional ups and downs are normal in postpartum recovery—what matters most is that she knows you’re there for her.

What’s the most meaningful way to support her?

Be emotionally available. Listen. Appreciate her openly and often. Gifts are nice, but consistent kindness, respect, and emotional presence leave a lasting impact.

Why is communication so important?

It builds trust, reduces stress, and reinforces that this is a shared journey. Honest conversations can turn a transactional experience into a lifelong bond.

Final Thoughts: Surrogacy Is About Connection

Being a surrogate is a deeply selfless, life-changing act. And while no amount of compensation or gifts can match what she’s giving, a thoughtful surrogate care package and gifts—combined with consistent emotional support—go a long way.

At the end of the day, surrogacy is more than a legal agreement: it’s a human experience. One that deserves care, kindness, and acknowledgment every step of the way.

To learn more about how you can support your surrogate beyond the basics, visit our frequently asked questions or intended parent resource guide.